#make it not a get out of jail free card

[simswoon]

theo met the twins <3

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[infiniteorangethethird]

I don't mind ppl shipping aro characters actually. What I do mind is ppl turning aro characters alloromantic to fit into ship stereotypes, and then claim they are still aro without putting in the effort to actually portray them as aromantic characters in a romantic relationship

[justaz]

merlin’s secret being a visual thing. when he is around arthur or gwen or leon or morgana or [insert whatever character here] merlin seems pale and thin, almost like a ghost or an apparition. when the sun lands on him he reflects it like a corpse, he eyes seem dark and dull. he has this ethereal beauty to him, this otherworldly visage that leads many to believe he is of fae blood. he just doesn’t seem to be 100% human. but when he is ONLY with lancelot or gaius (cough or gwaine bc gwaine DEFINITELY knew) merlin is heartachingly human. merlin shines in the sunlight, colors are brighter and more vibrant around him, and his smiles are wide and his laughs are boisterous. he takes on color and leaves everyone wanting to know him. but when other join in or interact with the two, merlin shifts before their eyes so quickly and suddenly that they aren’t sure whether or not what they saw was a trick of the light. the idea still leaves them wanting more and wanting to see the merlin who is just so full of life but that merlin only appears for a small select group of people. merlin who has a guard so high that it has an effect of other’s perception of him.

[normal-posts-4-normal-people]

I really like Hellspawn, and I think BloodPact is amazing, and I also like Hellpact because I have good taste, so at this point I think I should just cut out the middle man and start making this a poly ship

[mollysunder]

When Ekko tells Heimerdinger, "It's not enough to give people what they need to survive, you have to give them what they need to live", it falls flat to me because Heimerdinger didn't even give Zaun the first part. Heimerdinger and the Council very clearly didn't even give Zaun the bare minimum in terms of support based on the air and water quality alone (nevermind most of Zaun lives in the ground too).

Frankly, the quote applies more to how Heimerdinger treated Topside, overly cautious to prevent the mistakes of the past in a way that can stifle innovation. And it's weird that when Heimerdinger puts it into practice in Zaun it's more him building elaborate toys for children vs utilities that could help out a fledgling community like the Firelights. It's giving neglectful parent that feeds kids sweets to cheer them up instead of cooking a meal.

[dramas-vs-novels]

Kuea has it carved into his heart that Friday is his day with Lian.

Lian, meanwhile, has a long track record of fucking up Fridays, injecting work into their dates whenever possible, and at least in this case forgetting it entirely.

Here it's a casual way to lure Kirin out and give Kuea a fun night doing what he loves, but it's also a hard lesson for Lian about how much more of a priority Kuea makes their relationship.

[quatregats]

Had a conversation about being perceived as South Asian with my cousin and her kids and I'm still rotating it around in my head because like. Did everyone suddenly forget that I am also half white. Like did you forget that I do not have two South Asian parents

[problemnyatic]

I generallly believe in being nice and respectful and accomodating when educating others and trying to course correct folks. I am also deeply, soul-suckingly tired and not particularly interested in playing complement sandwitch four billion times with people for promising to consider treating me like a fully realized human being someday.

Sometimes I'm gonna take the easy, bitter route and make sure that if people are gonna be all up in their guilt to feel better, they're at least feeling guilty about the right shit. I'm not above holding people aginst their purported morals and dressing down each of their failures to practice them.

The most important thing I ever, ever taught myself, by far, was learning how to be the fuckup without collapsing emotionally, getting defensive, or internalizing it as an inherent flaw I can never escape. I did this, because I knew that it's impossible to be perfect, and that if I want people to tell me when I need to correct myself, I need to be someone who is easy to correct. A breakdown isn't "being easy," getting defensive, starting an argument, bickering, hair-splitting, none of that constitutes being easy to approach or correct.

And also, for god's bleeding sake, we're tired. Trans folks, poor folks, the neurodiverse, black folks, brown folks, palestinians, the chronically ill, every marginalized person is fucking exhausted. Cut us a fucking break if we don't always have it in us to be the nicest about our outrage, about our lack of human rights. Sometimes we'll be bitter, and mean, and disrespectful about our oppression.

Cut us some slack, accept that you feel bad, and pull the best-faith, most critically-thought-through interpretation you can out of our words. You cannot prioritize your comfort in conversations about human rights. If you do, you have already lost. You have already chosen complacency, you have chosen yourself to the exclusion of the opressed.

[llitchilitchi]

turning off anon, if you intend to interrogate me about joining projects for a fandom that I don't main and are upset that I am giving everyone a heads up that the contents of this blog will change heavily because of my current interests, just unfollow me and move on with your goddamn life

[theragamuffininitiative]

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[trans-clown-catgirl]

homestuck fans investigating possible new contrived explanations for why drawing incest is actually ok and completely ethical

[venacoeurva]

I've dealt with some real weirdos and especially in the NSFW spaces I've been, people lose a lot of common sense with strangers, but especially when they're horny, or think being in sexual spaces (or other places that are less formal and more open about some things) makes your boundaries nonexistent. People can hardly act normal asking for @ s of accounts for that kind of thing, but y'know it also applies to SFW spaces as well sometimes because the average attitude in some spaces are super goddamn weird and either culty or reinforcing parasocial shit... or just really entitled, need it be access to the creators of something, or towards just other people in the circle making stuff

Remember, if some rando is thinks they're entitled to your art/writing/edits/mods/whatever you post because they like it and act like you're a cold selfish bitch who is suddenly bad at being in [whatever hobby/creative job industry you do if you do that] for having boundaries, rejecting a commission/work from them, sometimes even just telling them requests aren't open, or they violate rules you have established are needed to follow you wherever (such as age), you're allowed to give them the boot because they're annoying, wrong, and are more often then not holding a one way ticket to parasocial town and you do not want that near you.

You owe them nothing, if negative behavior like that towards you is brought on/worsened by their mental health issues/disabilities/so on, it's still not your damn job or obligation to keep them around or help them manage even if you're understanding of it because they aren't your friend or kid. That's an explanation, not excuse or get out of jail free, block em.

[xstarlightxstarbrightx]

adventuring rambles #2

idk how much i mentioned abt certain things i've h/c'd abt the world, but i should mention how i believe the waypoints work in Teyvat.

mainly, i feel like Lumi is purifying the Statues and waypoints. in Monds.'s quest, there's that whole bit where Traveler purified the tear (i think it was the tear. it was either that or like blood???) after it got corrupted; now the thing abt that is that the tear was red (similar to waypoints / Statues when we find them) and when it showed up as purified, it was blue (like the waypoints / Statues after we unlock them!) i'm sure there's a lot of ppl who are already theorizing abt that, but i don't really feel like digging through paragraphs and paragraphs of things and would much rather have a silly time figuring things out on my own. BUT b/c of this, my h/c is that Waypoints, ages ago, were used as they are now but got corrupted. People nowadays see them as lil gimmicks or just normal weird things leftover (like ruins), but then Traveler shows up and purifies them!

i also h/c that only those w/ Visions / connection to the elements can use them. the reason being is that i think that the waypoints are linked by leyline veins, and a lot of the lore insists that intense leyline energy isn't Good(tm) for common people (and i feel like, to traverse the waypoints, it probably involves a lot of leyline energy).

however, while i AM canonizing waypoints in my personal thing, i ALSO h/c that u can only USE waypoints by activating them through touch (i also believe that's the only way Traveler can resonate w/ elements, through touching the Statue of the Seven). this is why Portable waypoints are super important, and also why Lumi and Kaeya got trapped in Dragonspine instead of teleporting out!

this ranting is just another way for me to set up more understanding of how i h/c / fanon Teyvat, and i feel like i need to establish this for later h/c's and silly things like that

after purifying and figuring out the waypoint thing, i like to think that Lumi decided that she would work on unlocking every waypoint she could find to help people out. so like when she unlocks things, she immediately tells people who need to know / can utilize it (like Jean in Monds. or Ningguang in Liyue). i also feel like the first time Kaeya finds out abt this, he's kinda spooked b/c it's back when he's first getting to know her, and it's kinda terrifying to know she can just teleport places???

side note, i don't think she automatically tells like,,, Childe or specific Harbingers, but i feel like the Fatui already knew abt this and probably utilize it anyway. it's kinda like a double edged sword, but at the same time it's really helpful so Lumi just has to suffer the consequences,,,

(this also explains why people had to ride boats back to Snezhnaya, b/c those waypoints are still corrupted >:))

and my last h/c regarding waypoints and such, is that u can't just teleport all over the place willy-nilly. like, when using a waypoint, u can only teleport to other waypoints that are adjacent to it, OR a Statue of the Seven. Statues are like incredibly strong, so they're like beacon towers of energy essentially, so u can teleport to Statues of the Seven from any waypoint, AND vice versa. But if u want to teleport from, like, Cape Oath in Monds. to Sumeru City, u'd have to go through a Statue of the Seven first.

idk if that makes a TON of sense, but i SWEAR it makes sense in my head lmao.

[yappacadaver]

im just obsessed with his themes and motifs, i love when guys have suffering tailor-made just for them, and i love watching how their psyche tries to grow through the torture dungeon's twisting labyrinth, until the shape of their soul is a cast of it

[pretentioussongtitle]

Yes in fact I DID use my cancer as an excuse to not Be Social and go to The Thing.

Said I felt unwell; I felt fine I just didn't want to go.

Who's gonna argue with me? No one; they'd look like an asshole.

[trekkiehood]

Okay but it's both

I tend to just say "I was really overstimulated" bc ppl freak out for some reason when they hear autism lol

But the point isn't "you can't explain your actions!!" It's "Take responsibility." You can give an explanation without it being an excuse.

Sure a lot of NTs are gonna take it the wrong way regardless. But saying "Hey I'm sorry I snapped at you. That was wrong of me. I was really overwhelmed and took it out on you." Or even "hey I'm really sorry about that. Because of my autism I really hate when people are chewing loudly. I know it wasn't intentional and my reaction was on me not you, I just want you to understand why I did it." Goes a long way.

1. It helps people believe you and that you're not just making up excuses.

2. Feels like it's a sincere apology

3. Let's them know what caused it so they can be warey of it, but still putting the responsibility on yourself for your actions

It's both.

I've had people say "yeah sorry I shouldn't have yelled it's just that I have anger issues because of my ADHD" which makes you feel like you were wrong for setting them off. That shouldn't be the goal either.

The key to being taken seriously is take full responsibility, and be sure to emphasize this is not an excuse, just an explanation.

Sick list of symptoms bro. Now try humanizing your behavior instead of pathologizing it.